Recently I was given an email that I am assuming I have permission to print, it is very emotionally charged. I get the heat that a DIVORCE brings. However, for anyone to underestimate my ability to read between the lines do so at their own peril! My response to this particular email is not to be interpreted as to my being insensitive. Instead, it should be read as an ex-cop who finds the accusation of child molestation very serious and not a “chip” to be played to try and win in a custody battle. A battle most often than not is due to one parent wanting to totally devastate the other!
Initially this writer sent this to me as to the Commissioner Cowan story that I did several years ago. It is true I thought his ruling was as absurd a ruling I had seen till that of Judge Theresa Beaudet, who will forever be the queen of BAD RULINGS! Things have changed, Commissioner Cowan is now Judge Cowan. Yes, through the years I have had issues and encounters with commissioners and judges who sit in judgement. This (A story or the story) should not be taken as a sounding board for all those of you who are looking to take a cheap shot at one of these people, AKA “Judges.”
The one day he forgot to wear his cup…
Now to the point. “Child Molestation.” This is one of the cheapest shots a mother, or in some cases a father, can bring against each that can be pulled. Not to think what this does to the child or the miserable group of people your child will have to speak to as they dig into the accusations and try clever investigative techniques to “confirm.” Women, for some odd reason, I have found do this more often to their former or current husbands in what is an alarming rate. Just my observations. I recall one poor guy who was accused of molesting his son! This poor man was devastated and angry to the point of “How could this even be possible?” For him, it was his opinion the system was broke beyond any repair, look at what he was fighting! This poor guy was no more a molester of his son than I am the Easter Bunny!
Shot through the groin and your to blame…
For either parent to make this horrible accusation is the ultimate cheap shot in a DIVORCE. A double whammy worst than a kick in the nuts! And here lies the problem. Most, not all, are going to believe you! Why, you ask. “This is serious!!” Yes it is, but so many mothers and girlfriends have made these accusations in the courts across America so many times that it often falls on deaf ears. Certainly it has to be reported and all the lights and action have to come on and do the “investigation.” However, in the end, it is mom or dad who looks horrible. Again, my experience is it has been more often mom in her often desperate attempt to prevent dad from being dad, who is the culprit most likely to try and structure this ultimate “I gotcha!”
I have a candy cane you might like….it’s cream filled…
Every single false accusation can put a father in harms way for the rest of his life. For a mom’s boyfriend it too can be devastating to overcome, as it is often the “boyfriend” who is the culprit when dad makes the accusation. It makes those children’s chances who are being molested in reality even slimmer to get real help. Of course, I have seen cases where I knew a child was being molested, one in particular comes to my mind. An old miserable son of a bitch who thought it was just fine to take showers with his daughters…….I would have had this SOB in jail if some stupid therapist and a few other dip shits had not got in my way, all working and getting paid by the litigants and judge who was shocked but had no idea what to do! This was without question a real one and I could do nothing as so many people prior to my getting involved screwed the entire event up!
The Parents have left the building….
So in closing, it is my opinion that the story, as written and submitted, has more holes in it than a pound of cheap swiss cheese! The verbiage, the tone, and the entire story I had issues with. For sure, something has happened to all the parties in the email, and the one that all of my sympathy goes to is the child, as it would appear that one of the parents had not the sense to call it quits for the sake of the couple’s child.
Becareful what you say around kids….
One thing I always tell my clients, “you will always be dad” and “you will always be mom.” If, and I say if, one parents attempt to ruin the other is in fact that plan of the day, your son or sons and your daughter or daughters will one day find and understand the truth and what will you say?
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By John Nazarian
©Straight Talk with John J. Nazarian, Private Investigator
May 26, 2015
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