John J Nazarian – You are so Right John on…….!

Recently we received a comment as to the qualifications and most important of all ‘the temperament’ of MONITORS. Or more appropriately, Certified Visitation Monitors, these are the people who the court will order and or appoint to watch and take notes of your visits with your children. Sounds simple and easy right? Wrong!

I have to agree with everything John is saying. Phyllis Block of Kidz-First Parental Monitoring Service is the most unprofessional, two faced person I’ve ever met. My situation required a monitor to watch my husband during his visits, who was abusive and already once took my child away from me without telling me. Phyllis was constantly at odds with our scheduled arrangement and locations, always inputting her preferences and changing plans to best suit her and my ex even if it meant my child and I had to completely change our schedules in order to accommodate them. She couldn’t keep track of any plans as well and I had to constantly follow up with her. I knew things were going bad quickly when she started insinuating that I wasn’t caring for my child well enough. Most shocking was when it came time to report on the visits, she was completely biased toward my ex, there were huge mistakes and little facts as to what took place during the visits, rather her opinions were clearly made throughout. I have come to agree that monitors are a total scam and a joke, a few hours of training and they can throw a wrench into a family law issue.

Since my first articles several months ago, I have had an incredible education on the work these people do and the hazards that go along with the job. On both sides!

It maybe a great idea to come across as an old calloused jerk. This method works well for a few, sure be disagreeable, make comments that can put one side or the other into a state of wonderment. We all know, it is almost like the ‘bogeyman’ what is he or she going to do, what will they write in their reports……scary!

Well the report is very important and should be done the same day as the visit. Not days later if at all….. some of these agencies employees do not exactly have the English vernacular mastered and being a former cop means absolutely NOTHING! For others they are just old and cantankerous and enjoy being just a ruthless pain in the ass.

Some agencies, the owners and employees are younger and understand how children and parents should interact. Lets just say that some have a more ‘fresh’ and a sense of reasons than some… I always said, ‘for me it was having some common sense’ that made me a good cop. It is not the job of the monitor to play head games with you and some do, I am thinking to make you fear getting rid of them.

BTW, getting rid of some these people once they are attached is sometimes not easy.

Some lawyers will just stop the visits, and try to negotiate with the other side to try someone new. And just like anyone coming into your life, these CVM’s have a purpose and a place and you need to be cautious, I agree, these ‘bit’ players can have a catastrophic affect on your divorce and your life!

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5 Responses to John J Nazarian – You are so Right John on…….!

  1. sarasita says:

    Sylvia is one narcissist vengeful woman. She is the one who makes up lies about her husband’s abuses and lies in court while all the while she was the abuser, neglectful mother and party girl. She got herself a heartless unethical lawyer and together they destroy the father, the children and anyone else who gets in her vengeful path. The lawyer wants the journey to keep going so he can add a new wing to his house.

    Along comes Phyllis Block, a kind, professional, who cares only about the children. Her observations are of a loving father and a father that the children adore. He is present for them, listens to them and has never hired a babysitter because he wants to be with the children. Sylvia on the other hand is too busy, has too much money, and has no job, but way too many parties and trips. The babysitters who hardly speak English are bringing up the children.

    Phyllis Block who has seen many divorces over her 10 years of monitoring, recognized the true Sylvia. Sylvia was never home when the monitor came to pick up and drop off the children. Too busy. Judging by what she saw, not by what was said, she wrote a true and honest report about the father she was observing. This was too much for Sylvia to accept. How dare she not be the number one? Sylvia, your children will despise you one day for lying about their father so you could manipulate the divorce. Your lawyers are taking you for a ride. Any decent ethical lawyer would tell you to settle and not cause the children unjust anguish. But of course, your lawyer told you to go and get a restraining order, so that you could have the upper hand. Well you have it now, but the truth always comes to the surface, and your children will know one day what you have done and will hate you for taking their daddy away. Is it worth it? Your lawyers will love you and your children will not. That is divine justice.


  2. sarasita says:

    If you are going through a divorce and the lawyers on the other side are Hal and Miriam Stanton beware…… These two are the most unethical, lying, money hungry duo that hang around the court house. They DO NOT CARE ABOUT THE CHILDREN. It is all about the money. They have their strategies and they play very dirty. They don’t believe in negotiating or peace. They want to squeeze as much from their client as as they can.


  3. neverquit says:

    Hal Stanton is a liar and should be disbarred from practicing law.He is mean spirited and ruthless,he gives bad advise and ruins lives,His wife Mirian is worse.We are working hard on collecting evidence to expose them.
    If you know anything please contact

  4. sara says:

    The narrative above about Phyllis Block is accurate.

    She was highly unprofessional, disorganized and focused on her own convenience.

    She spent most of her time as a supervisor:
    1- on her cell phone with her back turned about 40 feet away
    2- hanging out with people she brought with her

    I;m not making this up. She actually brought personal friends and family members to our private, precious family time, and demanded her full hourly rate for hanging out with her friends!

    Her reports were inaccurate. She got dates, places and times wrong. They were written as though she was on her cell phone as she wrote them too, with misspelled words, factual errors, incomplete sentences, and I’m not talking grammatical error; there were whole sentences and paragraphs left hanging.

    I was able to prove all of this with dated, time-stamped photos I took during the sessions and I recommend everyone do this because otherwise you have no recourse but to put up with the crap.

    This position is a well paid “cottage industry” with few qualifications and no oversight, like many positions associated with the courts an the ‘family courts’ as a whole. They are “money mills.” There is no professional accountability. They answer to no one, so these shares are it folks!

    Choose wisely because your future and that of your children rests upon the conduct of people like her.

    I also concur on the DHS worker noted in this post. Terrible.

    If anyone out there can actually recommend someone who has professional integrity speak up, because so far, ‘the system’ hasn’t shown me anything to be proud of.

  5. Sara mamabear says:

    It’s 1:30 p.m. on Mothers Day. Phyllis Block just cut my visit with my son by half due to alleged “additional communication fees” of just under $500 that I’ve not even seen a full accounting of…and isn’t communication about visitation supposed to be their job?

    So I pay $75/hour plus $35 mileage fee for them to drive from Chatsworth to Simi Valley where the visits are limited to…after having to email them several times just to get dates and times of availability and confirmation with a custodial parent they allow to be up to 30 mins late,’ time I’m also paying for that I don’t get added on to my visit…and I travel 2200 miles round trip to see my son for this abuse?

    On Mothers Day? You should have seen the look on my son’s face when they cut our visit short because of their greed!

    It’s not about “Kudz First” or safety. It’s about profit and extortion!

    Who oversees these crooks? Who are they accountable to at the state or county or court level?

    Who can we communicate with to stop this kind of abuse of the system fir orofit at tye ed xoense of parents abd children firced to pay these crooks to standardize these visitation procedures to stop this kind of extortion and abuse?

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