May
12
It was Mother’s Day for Virgie Arthur, too
Filed Under Anna Nicole Smith, Custody, Moving On, Relationships
You know, soon I am looking at 60 years on this planet, the big 50 knocked the wind out of my sails and the next big number is not any easier. To cut to the chase this ride will end sooner than I would like. Oh but what a ride it has been. Few can compete with my life experiences: adopted as an infant, terrible childhood, great childhood, high speed police pursuit at 16, the 70’s, great sex, an embalmer, business owner, equipment operator, prison guard, deputy sheriff, police officer and now this, a private investigator and so much more.In saying that, I have come to the point in my life that I don’t care much who likes me or who does not. There have been people that I cared for and did not talk to for years, and I paid the penalty for my being petty and thick-headed. Certainly at the time I was positive that I was standing for something, but at this point I am not sure what it was…..my brother-in-law died during one of these times and I really did love the guy. Ahhh my sister had done something to piss me off and I shut down all communications, I showed them, I got to see my brother-in-law in a casket, yup I showed ‘em!
As many of you know or don’t know or for that matter don’t care, I was a private investigator working for one of the defendants in the Anna Nicole Smith case. And I left prior to the criminal indictments being read and now work for one of the other defendants…did I jump ship? Absolutely not, I had my reasons and I felt that they were honorable and still do.
Something that has been bothering me for a couple of years however is this, why not give Anna’s mother time with her granddaughter? Why the wall? Virgie Arthur is getting old like me and all of the rest of us and is this really anyway to act. This child, Dannielynn, is her granddaughter and will always be her granddaughter. Funnier yet is this, how close did one of these people come to being “odd man out.” Ahhh, that god dam reversal of fortunes again and people’s memories are either short or very selective as to what they recall. For “recreating” history, that too is beyond funny, it was all on national television and that is the history I remember. The pictures of Mr. Birkhead and his lawyer — who can forget those days? At one point was there not an alliance with Mr. Birkhead and Ms. Arthur against one of the primary people involved in this case? Mother’s Day has just passed and for me it is just another day, a day like all the others, Easter, Valentines, Wood Chuck, folks this was just a plot by a very smart person to sell cards and get rich. And in the end is it not always about the money?
For Anna’s mother, how must she have felt? Lost her daughter, cannot see her granddaughter unless she sees or reads about the child on the page of a tabloid or a select media source and all of this legal crap continues. Would a little kindness hurt, a little time for this little girl to be with her grandmother…anyone show me the harm or threat that this former peace officer can bring to this child and I will never mention this subject again. This is not fair on so many levels. And I have a great deal more to say on this subject and will at the opportune time.
Maybe then her legal team would stop kicking ass in the Texas courts and give some of the people in California time to close their eyes and reflect! Without having f’n angina attacks. Hell, I have to say not many people are closing their eyes for long for fear of getting hit with another boot! At this rate there are parts of Los Angeles looking like “Boom Town.” And I would have to think that besides a water shortage, things in Georgia are not so good either and forget about Florida, dam mosquitoes and lizards with big teeth eating peoples pets….give me an earthquake anytime.
And I have heard all the terrible stories about what Virgie Arthur did or did not do — oh please. She was a cop in good standing, so enough of that bullshit! All of us have stories about relatives (the old adage, you can pick your friends, you cannot pick your relatives) or actions that we took as parents and how badly we screwed up. You know what? when I became a dad no one gave me a F’n book to tell me how to do it and I have so screwed things up on numerous occasions that I am still sick over some of it, BUT, I tried. And I believe Virgie tried too…..let this woman be a grandmother! We are human and some of us have kids that will be what they want to be and will cause us pain and more grief than we could ever imagine and may not want to have us around. Guess what, in the end we are still their parents and I have been told that it is also a part of being a parent. Yes, I saw the tape of Anna ragging on her mom…guess what, so what, there might be a tape someday of one of my kids ragging on me, again it is all a part of being a parent. Build walls and be cruel and mean-spirited, all it will get you is misery and pain. Virgie Arthur was Anna’s mother and she will always be Dannielynn’s grandmother.
Why did you wait so long to say this?
John,
I take this as you letting down the wall you may have put up during your life adventures and now expressing your softer side.
However, our opinions differ as far as letting Virgie see DL this late in the game, she had her chance to be just a grandma but it seems the ole mighty dollar is getting in the way.
Appreciate you expressing yourself though and as always enjoy your articles.
JMA
Carol, I have had it on my mind for a long time. And I have also been reminded that I made a comical statement on someone’s site and I have always had a hobby of writing and sometimes I get carried away. There were also people pretending to be me and wrote some very nasty things. My writings and my expressions are very obvious if you read my material. I have never stood by and behaved as anyone’s puppet and will never. What is right is right and I am seeing much more ‘gray’.
I have to some degree seen ‘a little light’, it is a light that I always remain alert for. I have NEVER been into causing someone pain or just being on the band wagon. I had different thoughts in the early stages and I certainly have different thoughts today as in now.
I would hope that my behavior and thoughts would reflect that. I sincerely hope that Ms. Arthur will be able to visit her daughters burial site and be a part of her grand daughters life someday.
John
John, I thought your article was very kind. I really like the way you put your thoughts down in your writings. God Bless you.
Daisy the ‘heat’ that I took was funny and interesting as to the sources, some was ’smart’ and some was lets just say ‘HICK’ like. It is funny how people who had little or nothing can be so cavalier when in the end they will still be a ‘HICK’.
I am not saying that Ms. Arthur was always right and I think we can all agree that the ‘other’ side has not been exactly ‘right’ in their behavior and actions either. That was all I was trying to do…but as sure as the sun will be coming up in the morning, I have a great deal more to say that is going to throw ’some’ into a great big tizzy! That will come when the two ‘boys’ in Beverly Hills release their book, real soon.
thanks,
John
John, that is about the most brilliant deduction from this whole sage from your statement above. Both sides IMO have really displayed some bad behavior here. I probably don’t think you’ll post this comment but wanted to tell you your thoughts have especially in the past have been interesting to say the least.
Heck, John…who is always right? I was very hard on her and have some remorse about it and felt I was reacting to a woman who I didn’t fully understand.
The hick…as upset as he got over the pocketbook story I can’t even imagine the reaction the book will get.
I hope Larry Birkhead will read this! Virgie should be fighting to see her Grand daughter.
I am just realizing who you are. I thought you were a mean man,but now I have changed my mind. Virgie definitely needs to see her grandbaby. It is a second chance for her to do the right thing. I love my children with all my heart but grandchildren’s love goes deeper!
Blah, Blah, Blah…I don’t think taht any of those people are interested on the well being of that child, but the pottential of oil money that she[they] might get in the future. That billionaire oil family will never give them any money, spacially now that ana is no longer here to fight for it.
Just wondering your opinion on something. Do you think Howard had anything to do with Larry making the decision of Virgie not seeing Dannylynn?
I’m very interested in reading your side of the Anna story. I like your writing style. Take care.
Ya, I guess, we just try hard and make a living and try and do what is right and sometimes we are wrong.
And when you look at the ‘nuts’ and ‘bolts’ of this case, Virgie is not doing anything that everyone else is not doing. She and her team are just doing it a little bit better! LOL
John
#11 one day real soon I will put my thoughts on paper as to what I think. For the obvious reasons I cannot at this time.
John